Unraveling the double bind of sexual shame

Unraveling the double bind of sexual shame

This past weekend, someone I likely knew closely in the past attempted to anonymously shame my sexuality. As soon as I read the comment, a stinging heat took over my inner experience. My heart squeezed, and my breath shortened. It was the beginning of a shame spiral...
Our capacity to belong

Our capacity to belong

One of the ways consensual culture is growing within me is our essential design of feeling belonging to ourselves and each other- a central thesis to this body of work.  As I deepen my relationship to my needs and limits; a muscle that eluded me for most of my...
Abolishing capitalism within us

Abolishing capitalism within us

As the sky looms cloudy and grey in San Diego, I’m relating to a false sense of urgency within me that I’ve come to know intimately over the last few years in my embodiment journey. This felt-sense of speed and scarcity is a product of being socialized within...
How we heal in relationships

How we heal in relationships

In the following week after we launched the consensual culture fundraiser last Monday, I froze.  I froze because asking for $25,000 is not just about making sure our team and business are well resourced, nor just about creating scholarships for queer, trans...